“ If anything in any piece of feedback threatens our sense of self, we can quickly find ourselves acting through emotions like overwhelmed, embarrassed, defensive, or sometimes not even being able to recognise what’s come over us.” —This one helped me see that the sharp, brutal feedback I received from someone this week spoke more about them feeling (consciously or not) their sense of identity threatened, than to anything I had done wrong. Thank you for the insights!
I'm so pleased it was helpful @Ellane, thanks for sharing. I've found this to be a game-changer personally, and am realising that (somewhat inconveniently) we never really " arrive" at mastery, we just keep getting more in tune with what's happening in the moment, and more practiced at our own interventions! 🙏🏼
“ If anything in any piece of feedback threatens our sense of self, we can quickly find ourselves acting through emotions like overwhelmed, embarrassed, defensive, or sometimes not even being able to recognise what’s come over us.” —This one helped me see that the sharp, brutal feedback I received from someone this week spoke more about them feeling (consciously or not) their sense of identity threatened, than to anything I had done wrong. Thank you for the insights!
I'm so pleased it was helpful @Ellane, thanks for sharing. I've found this to be a game-changer personally, and am realising that (somewhat inconveniently) we never really " arrive" at mastery, we just keep getting more in tune with what's happening in the moment, and more practiced at our own interventions! 🙏🏼